Life is a shuttle

I don't know what The Bard had in his mind when he wrote this but life, certainly, is a shuttle. Or not? A shuttle goes to and fro and keeps moving in a loop but life I think, is a journey which goes on and on. It does have its hiccups and stalls us sometime but even then life keeps passing.

Now whether the journey is pleasant or miserable is, to a large extent, in our hands. I hear the naysayers,'its fate, destiny, kismet' and so on. I agree it is not always possible to get the results we want even after we have put in our best effort and have focused on our goal. We do get disappointed with our failures. We get depressed, we fret and fume, take out our frustrations on our near and dear ones. We even think the universe is conspiring against us and the world is out to get us.

No, I am not going to say, don't feel this way or be positive. It is very natural to feel this way. Enjoy your share of misery. Wallow in self pity for  some time. Done? Do you feel any better? No? See the futility of all that anger and persecution complex? Its not going g to lead you anywhere but to the abysmal pit of impotent anger and self destruction.

So what to do? Just take a diary and write down the reasons you can think of your failures. It does not matter if the failure is in business or relationships. The causes are essentially the same. We either don't give proper attention to areas we need to or ignore the core issues. So write honestly and not with self righteousness. Where do you think you could have handled things differently? What strategy you could have applied to avoid this mishap?

If you are really honest, you will not only get your answers but an insight too of how to turn things around d. It recently happened with me. I went through  a period of frustration in a relationship. I fortitude, I was so full of self righteousness that I allowed it to cloud my judgement. But, I had the epiphany and I decided to a new strategy to handle things. No, in a relationship, you don't have to be harsh but you can be firm and polite while stating your position.

The prerequisite is intellectual honesty. Be absolutely realistic and don't let anger dictate your mind.

Go ahead and do it, you will feel the difference.

So be it !!!!