Listen to many, speak to a few

It is so uncanny how Shakespeare could say so much in just one sentence. But then that is why he became what he is even today. But if you really think about it, how many of us actually do that? We all love to hear our own voice. We think we are listening to the other person but actually, more than ninety percent of times, we are thinking of the retort to him or her.

So we hear, not listen. There is a difference. Listening is when you actually grasp the full meaning of what the other person is saying, confirm it and analyze it. Then if there is a useful answer, you offer it or you keep quiet.

The art of conversation is difficult. If you really want to have meaningful and lasting relationships, practice the art of listening. If you find your mind wandering to finding the retort, pause and ask the person is this what you are saying. You will achieve two things. One you have confirmed what they are trying to say so you have a better understanding. Two and more importantly, the other person feels nice that you have been actually listening to them.

Don’t you think they will appreciate that? Of course they will. More than 70 percent of divorces will stop if only the couple start listening to each other. It does not come naturally. You have to practice being a good listener. And we keep falling into the trap of just hearing. So take more time in replying.

On the lighter side, imagine how much information you will gather in a party if you just listen and speak little. If you are a gossip, well, in that case it won’t work because you will be doing the most talking. Ha ha ha. No seriously, try listening next time you are in a conversation. It will do wonders for you.

So be it!!!