This above all, to thine own self be true

I was reflecting a lot yesterday, in fact I have been thinking and reflecting quite a bit in the past few months. I am now, as they say, free of all responsibilities. Both my sons are now married so I dint have to worry about their meals, laundry etc. So I thought, well I can do things that I REALLY want to do.

It so happens that many of my friends are in the same situation. Some are happy, they have their outlets, others however are a little lost. What happens is women of our generation lived their lives for others. They live to please others. In a family, it is good to an extent but to forget your own personality becomes a problem. If you are living to please someone else, trying to show that you are 'alright, you will probably have the nagging feeling of never quite 'getting there' as if something is amiss. Why?

Its because one can not get the same passion for doing things which others like. You do it out of fear of ridicule or rejection or out of a sense of duty, naturally you can't be passionate about it. Plus in the long run, you will lose your self respect and what is even worse is they will never be pleased. And if they are, you will still not be happy.

It happens with many middle aged ladies and they go into depression. Or they become cantankerous, meddling moms in law. Don't fall into the trap. Live your own life. Even if you lived for others earlier, live for yourself. Sit down and think what ignites your imagination and creativity. Join a course in that area. But do something.

May your life be your own

So be it!!!