Are you awake?

 Are you awake?

Ofcourse you would say, I am reading your blog. True. We wake up every morning and follow our routine. That routine gives us the flow, a rhythm. What about the weekends? Again cleaning , laundry, prepping for the week ahead and socializing. 

But are we really awake? Do we notice the changes around us? Most of you would answer in affirmative. You notice the changes around us in weather, many of us post pictures of leaves change colours in fall. We talk about preparing for the coming winter and share recipes  of different types to keep ourselves warm and healthy in changing weather. 

How many of us are awake inside? How many of us notice the negativity that just creeps in when someone hurts us, makes us angry or gossips about someone we know. The stress of the job, a nagging manager in the workplace. How all that negative energy starts affecting our mental and physical health. 

Many of us resort to anti depressants, join therapy groups, try to practice mindfulness and meditation. All these things help us for a short while. Soon, however, we fall victim to the negativity again. It starts affecting our relationships . 

I found a method which is both easy and difficult in practice. Anytime a negative thought comes in your mind, acknowledge it, dwell on it for a while like an outsider and see if you can find the root cause. Sometimes our own insecurities make us look at things we normally wouldn’t. Even if that’s not the case, we feel upset, our blood pressure rises and adrenaline kicks up to balance it. But if that’s happens too often, the system fails and we have breakdowns. Don’t let that happen. First take a deep breath and bless the person who made you angry. For your own mental health. Believe me it works. A little practice is required though. Second, once you have acknowledged the negative thought, just say thank you for coming , please leave now. This is the difficult part. We get so involved in the negativity and wallow in self pity that we want to replay it in our mind. Just say NO. 

It’s not avoiding or denying the thought, rather looking at it objectively and taking appropriate action. No toxic person is important enough to disrupt your life. They need help so just bless them and throw out the negativity. It does work but it needs determination. 

Just try it for a day and share how you felt. You will be a happier person. 

So be it !!!