Do men need a fix?

 Do men need a fix ?

In the film My Fair Lady, actor Rex Harrison says women come in your life and they try to fix you. First they change the curtains and then they try to change you. He says that in a funny way but does the statement hold any truth?

Everyone talks about the turmoil a girl goes through once she is married. She has to adjust with the in laws, follow their traditions, be respectful, try to be one of them. If she is working, she is still expected to do household chores at least partially and also contribute financially. Plus she is criticized by the mother in law for not being perfect. Women brigades take to street anytime a woman is ill treated by in laws, laws have been created to favour the wife and everyone sympathizes with her. 

The husband on the other hand becomes the villain. He is torn between his mother and wife. A woman who has nurtured him since his birth, who has been his teacher, mentor, friend all rolled into one. He is dependent on her emotionally. Naturally she has a special place in his heart. 

Then there is his wife, his love, his partner. She enters his house with both excitement and fear. And she has her expectations of being accepted as a part of her new family and protected by her husband. In case of a conflict she expects him to support her. 

But what about the man? Isn’t he entitled to some respect and dignity? He also expects his wife to look after him and give him emotional support. In case of a conflict between two most important women in his life, he has to do a balancing act. Even if he is staying alone with his wife there are expectations from him on both sides. He also has to adjust to his new life and that takes time but does anyone give him that? He is easily accused of harassing the wife and if the matter goes to court, all laws are against him and he has to pay alimony and child support if they have children. It doesn’t matter if the wife is working. I know cases where the wife was the culprit and still walked away with half the property, child custody and support. 

Fixing the man part can be talked about later but what I want to say is that men also deserve our sympathy and their perspective has to be respected. They have their side of the story. Yes in most cases the men use their brute power but what about women harassing them ? That also happens. 

Let’s be more careful in judging men or rather not judging them every time. 

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