‘Is that worth it?’

Just had a conversation with a friend of mine. There was something bothering her and she was quite upset and rightly so. Well the conversation got around to how important it was for her to keep feeling bad.

I asked her ‘is it worth it?’

Have you ever experienced extreme anger at some one? You are seething with rage even when the person is absent. You cringe, cry and get upset. All this while that person is blissfully unaware. So what are we doing? Torturing our mind and body by pumping adrenaline and in the process making our heart beat faster, blood pressure going up and hormones playing havoc with our system.

Is it worth it? Aren’t you giving far too much importance to that individual? Aren’t you giving them control over you? Your emotions are yours and no body should be able to stir them. Yes, we do feel sad when someone is rude or does something terrible but to what extent?

How much will that matter one year from now? Will you feel the same pain? Will you let it to make you stuck or will you move on taking it as a bad joke. By all means, if the wound is deep, cut the person off you life but please, please don’t let them control you.

There will always be people who will betray you, backbite against you, and let you down. What do we do? Another friend of mine once suggested something very useful and it really works. When you are feeling angry with someone, Sip some water, take three deep breaths, and go to a corner. Sit down and bless that person. Do it with all your heart, its difficult I know but do it and you will feel better.  

I have tried it many times and although in the beginning, it takes a while but I do feel better every time. We cannot change how people behave but we can definitely respond instead of react.

Do it and you will agree.

So be it!!!