Acta Nonverba

 Acta Nonverba 

Deeds not words. My mother always said your love shows in your deeds. If you really care for someone, you’d make sure of their comfort . One doesn’t need to say it. I grew up with this concept. I saw a deep love between my parents which was expressed in their actions. My mother was a teacher and she had to leave early in the morning as her school started at 7 am. She cooked our school lunch before she left but my father made our breakfast, even combed our hair. At the time when men didn’t even think of helping in the house, my father helped my mother every day even though we had domestic help. He loved to cook so he would often make or add a dish for dinner. Not once did I see my parents saying I love you. But we could see it everyday in their “deeds”.

My husband on the contrary didn’t do anything in the house but since he was in the army, I had a battery of helpers. He is a man of few words and again never said I love you at least in the initial stages of our marriage but cared for me in every way. I, on the other hand , am a hugger. I hug my loved ones and express my love. But I remembered my mother and didn’t expect the words. It’s a different story now fortunately. 

But came my children and I realized that words are as important as deeds. Your child needs that hug, that warmth of your body, that kiss to show them you love them. Both my parents hugged us and told us they loved us when we were young. So when I became a mother, I would kiss my sons often, sing to them and told them often I loved them. 

I know words alone are not sufficient to sustain any relationship but actions alone also don’t work in today’s world. Your deeds do speak for you but loving, encouraging words can boost the confidence of your child. 

And this holds true in any relationship. Words have to be followed by deeds but words are as important. They boost the morale of the other person. They fill the void if any in communicating your feelings. They can make a huge difference. Who doesn’t need reassurance? 

So deeds need words and vice versa. What do you think? Do you express your love to people important in your life? Or are you the silent one relying on your deeds alone? 

Do share your thoughts. 

Say I love you to someone you really care about.

So be it !!!